How to Handle an Asshat
for the Dignified
I'm not afraid of trolls and other creatures in Vanguard, but the
trolls on the Vanguard forums at Ten Ton Hammer drive me nuts. What can
So, you’ve arrived at the
Ton Hammer Vanguard forum. Congratulations--you’ve
found one of the strongest and most active Vanguard communities on the
Interwebs. You’ve signed up and verified your forum account
and you gotten down to the business of posting. But what’s
this? You took the time to post your opinions and now some jerk is
trying to pick a fight with you!
Unfortunately, jerks are a fact of forum life. Not everyone knows how
to conduct themselves with dignity and respect like you do. (You style="font-style: italic;">do conduct yourself
with dignity and respect, don’t you?) For you, the Good Forum
Citizen, I present a simple yet effective guide to dealing with,
Nothing rattles an irrational person more than a calm and
logical argument. If you can stay calm and avoid becoming
defensive in the face of someone who's trying to provoke
you'll manage to make yourself look composed and eloquent while he
looks like he's foaming at the virtual mouth.
fire with fire. It's easy to sling insults back at the
person who's slinging them at you. But while it may be easy, there's no
dignity in it. Remember this rule: never argue with an idiot; they'll
drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.
factual errors. It's certainly okay to post a correction
if Mr. Asshat has used an argument that doesn't hold
water...just make sure you're armed with facts. It won't do to say,
"You're an idiot! You've got your facts all wrong!" Instead, show your
proof that the person is mistaken. And by proof I mean whatever you can
find (usually links) to show that you're right and the other person is
wrong. Do this without name calling and without trying to provoke.
difference between fact and opinion. Facts can be proved.
An opinion is "a belief or conclusion held with confidence but not
substantiated by positive knowledge or proof." If you believe something
to be true but you don't have proof, it's an opinion. Asshats often
mistake their opinions for fact. Don't do the same.
to win; use reason to make your point. If you enter an
argument with an asshat (a dangerous thing to begin with--see #2) go
into it knowing that you can't win...at least not where the asshat is
concerned. It's unlikely the person you're arguing with is ever going
to concede his point, so your job is to make your own point and make it
with style. Others may not agree with you, but they don't have to .
You're entitled to your opinion. Make it peaceably and then let it go.
No, really--LET IT GO.
Don't make it
personal. Whatever point you're arguing...stick to that
point. If you're talking about the rate of experience gain and
progression in Vanguard, don't try to make your case by saying that the
poster (even if he's being a jerk) is a clueless newb who should go
play Super Mario Brothers if he can't handle MMOs. Making it personal
is the asshat's territory. You don't want to go there.
winning move is not to play. You can tell when someone
who's taken a jab at you is just a few egg rolls short of a pupu
platter, can't you? In cases like this it's really best not to
engage (which is the virtual equivalent of avoiding eye contact). The
insane ramblings of the crazy asshat will be called out as troll-ism
soon enough. You don't want to take a walk on that particular wild side.
report feature. If you've been flamed (or you've seen
someone else roasted) please make liberal use of the report feature as
explained in our href="http://forums.tentonhammer.com/announcement.php?f=81">Forum
Guidelines. Reporting someone when they've attacked you
doesn't make you a wuss; it helps the Ten Ton Hammer moderators do
their job of keeping the forums a hospitable place to hang out.
There are two kinds of jerks--those who are jerks by choice, and those
who are jerks by accident. Those who are jerks by choice wouldn't heed
the advice above. This advice is not for them, it's for you, the Good
Forum Citizen, to prevent you from letting the asshats drag you down.
Stand tall, keep it sane, and be excellent to each other!
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