How to Be Nice in WoW

Updated Wed, Jan 11, 2012 by Saia

In many ways, the World of Warcraft is much like the real world. It has a vibrant planet with real people who explore it, even if they do it via digital avatars. You can learn trades, earn money and respect, make friends and kill big, big things and save the world.

Let’s assume for a minute that you’re a new player. After all, lots of people find Santa has left them WoW under their festive trees. How do you become an upstanding member of this vibrant community?

Politeness is King

It’s important to remember that WoW is like life and the same social rules apply. You can be polite and go a long way or rude and quickly find yourself reviled and shunned. Your reputation will proceed you and if it’s good, it will unlock dozens of doors.

It’s also the little things which matter, things like not ninjaing that Elementium node while that poor level 82 is battling three mobs - even if they’re the opposite faction. The correct thing to do is help and even heal them if possible. Similarly, don’t just see someone questing and invite them to a group or guild. Ask first.

Common sense does play a big roll and this is what all those little life lessons your parents taught you are for. Yes, politeness is the same whether you’re in Arkansas or Azeroth and, while virtual, there is still a person behind that toon. That person has feelings and you’re not going to achieve anything if you damage them so when interacting with other players remember that while their avatar is made of polygons, the person behind it is flesh and blood. It’s the little things which have the most impact though: think before you speak, if you don’t have anything nice to say, keep mum and, try not to nerdrage; there’s never an excuse for it.

This means if you’re in a random LFR or LFD group don’t, for the love of Elune, continually spam damage meters for example or need on loot without asking. There’s nothing worse than a squishy Mage taking that shiny piece of leather Boomkin gear that they can’t even wear.

Similarly, if there’s conflict, breathe and deal with it calmly. Someone ninjas your gear? Don’t take it out on the group/raid leader but calmly explain your problem when you file a ticket. If you have a disagreement within your guild, talk to a neutral party about it before you /gquit.

Similarly, don’t ransack the guild bank or even expect immediate access the second you join a new guild. It’s not a right and too many people treat it like it is. Instead, if you find the odd gem you don’t need or Chaos Orb, pop it in the guild bank rather than heading for the AH. For added politeness, if an item you want/need is in one of the locked sections that you can’t access, ask the officers for item x and explain the reason why you need it.

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Professions aren't just about making money, they can also be used to help others people, including your guildmates.

The other thing you can do is learn professions and then advertise - either in trade or guild chat -for work. Don’t spam though and don’t inflate prices, start low but not so low that you can’t make a tiny profit. Instead do offers, for example, if your an alchemist and your transmute procs, give the person the extra gem at half price or even for free. You could even inspect them and, if you have it, toss in a free enchant or an extra cut gem.

To give you an example of how not to do it, though, there’s nothing worse than a Mage offering portals for 10-50g when the reagent to create it only costs a handful of silver. Also while we’re on the subject of portals: FYI Mages, playing the portal lottery is not nice, particularly on the unsuspecting lowbie, let alone your guildies.

Random Acts of Kindness

One of the best things you can do in-game is to be generous. For example, when I was a newbie wandering through Elwynn, a random pally came up to me on his mighty charger, enchants gleaming and stopped. I was in awe of the maxed out champion of Azeroth. After a moment, he opened a trade window and gave me 50s (this was back when just five gold was a massive amount) and welcomed me to Azeroth.

It’s encounters like that which can make a player want to level. Random acts of kindness might sometimes be few and far between but they’re always worth it. This can be as small as buffing low-level players where you see them, trading the odd potion or just giving lost souls direction.

Follow these simple guidelines and you’ll become a paragon of what it means to be a good person. You’ll make far more friends that way, trust me.

Have you got stories of random acts of kindness you’d like to pass on? What’s the best piece of advice on being nice you’ve received? Let us know in the comments below.

A few times i had lower level people message me to help with an quest or small instance and I didnt mind helping as long as it didnt take me 20 minutes to travel there. it actually pays off even though i would do it for free but they usually give me a tip. What matters most if people taking the time to help others as most people dont do that.

Way back in vanilla wow when everyone was out getting the key for ony, i had gotten my key when you could raid LBRS and drop from the raid to loot the scrolls off the ground that respawned instantly in a diff loc then quickly rejoin the raid. after blizz nerfed that exploit doing LBRS as a 5man grp took HOURS due to the mass amounts of trash mobs, yes there were shortcuts but even using them it took 30 mins and a grp of players that followed orders n did not agro everything on the way .... grumble. anyway i must have spent the better part of a year running guild members through LBRS to get them keyed, no other tank wanted to spend the time and effort to do this, even i after countless runs came to a point of saying no. by that point word had spread that i was one of the only tanks on the server willing to run LBRS / UBRS so random folks started sending me mail / tells asking for help and of course i did. i think i felt guilty that i had gotten the key when it was easy and everyone else was doomed to delve into one of the largest dungeons in azeroth at the time. mind you this is the time when t1 was the best gear you could get and i did not have one peace of it.

for thous of you that do not remember LBRS and UBRS were the same instance just 2 diff major wings, you needed the UBRS ring to open the door. this ring was made up of gems from LBRS boss drops and a quest to forge it, many did not bother to finish or do the quest for whatever reason. so most of the time folks would form a raid for UBRS get the raid to the door and find out no one had the key. this was befor summoning stones and the PVE dungeon finder. BRM was the 2nd hottest area for world pvp other then hillsbrad.

so i may have never been that guy on the shining horse, but i was the guy that would spend 2 and a half hours running folks i did not know through a dungeon that had nothing in it for me. i continued to play this way for the rest of my wow career, did not have time for alts, that warrior had over 300 days played.

PS. Then there was BRD, but that is a tale for another time.

I started playing right after BC, I don't remember how long ago that was but thats not important.

I was playing for a week or so on my first toon, a Warrior. I remember not understanding why as I leveled it seemed to get harder and harder to kill mobs. I was in Westfall right where the couple with the cow. Struggling to kill the same level mobs as my Warrior. When riding up on his Charger came a high level Paladin. I don't remember exactly what he said but I do remember that he told me how to use the talent points that I had built up. And showed me how to change out weapons and armor. He also gave me a couple of gold and told me to ask anytime I had a question. When I explained that I'd just started playing and couldn't possibly pay him the gold back for a while his response was how I've played the game since. He said to just pass on the good will he showed me to other players. I immediately parked my warrior and started a Pally.

I got the Pally to Westfall and was probably level 20 when a lower level Paladin whispered me with a question. I passed on the good will. Our two Paladins leveled together to 70 and we became good friends IRL.

Be kind and pass it on.

This March will mark my 4th year playing. I knew NOTHING. So I started learning everything I could about the game. I visited countless websites, Googled questions, etc... All in an effort to be able to answer my own questions. As I played thru the game, I would see people in Trade asking questions and just getting ripped by people. I decided to start helping by whispering real answers to their questions.
I also really learned how to utilize the AH to make decent amounts of gold. I have spent whole playing sessions tutoring guildies and people I have met how to use the AH properly, how to utilize their professions, what mats I knew where selling very well and for how much to sell things for....the works.

I have spent hours helping kill Hogger, running lowboys thru dungeons for gear. You get the picture.
I have made some cool ingame friends just by helping to kill some mobs and it has made my play experience so much better and special and really what has kept me playing the game.

Jaryn, 85 Dwarf Pally, Windrunner

I was a noob Belf Pally, all alone on the strange continent of Kalimdor. I had been given the mission of killing some vile pirates or some such encroaching on Horde territory out in the Barrens. As I snuck up to their keep, lo and behold, there was a mighty mage, running in a large circle around those foul humans, leaving death in his wake. Literally. I was awed. I'd never seen anything like it. In character, I was awed. As a player, I was chagrined. How the heck was I supposed to kill x of these, y, of those,and loot z of that when he was killing everything in site without even pausing? And just WHAT the heck was he doing it FOR? I stood and watched him for a while. After his 4th or 5th pass, he whispered me, asking if I needed to quest there. I told him yes. He invited me to group, teaching me what that was all about, and then showed me how to put my character on follow. We ran "laps" for about 45 minutes, and he explained to me all about rep grinding, the AH, best places to farm, achievements, etc. It was a crash course in many aspects of the game. And I dinged a level or two while we were at it. And I never had to lift a finger. More lowbies came, and there were soon 4 or 5 of us following him like a little train, gaining XP, all without any effort on our part. He didn't have to look out for us, but he did. Ever since then, I've made it a point to help noobs out just as much as I can, even if it means I divert myself from what I had planned to do during that session. After all, we were ALL noobs once.

I am a noob, have never even played an RPG or MMO ?? before, with a level 14 Paladin. A random person stopped me on the road and gave me 20 gold and was gone before I could blink. I wouldn't even have known how to accept it, if not for my boyfriend sitting next to me saying click this, click that, they're trying to give you By the time I realized what had happened, they were gone. Even had I realized I had no idea how to use the chat and could not express my extreme gratitude for such unexpected generosity. My point is that there are true noobs out here and what may seem rude and ungrateful, is only inexperience. I want to say thank you, to all the people who remember what it was like to be a noob and have the grace to make it easier for us.

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