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Video of the Day: How to Build Resistance to Spouse Aggro

Posted Wed, Jul 10, 2013 by Shayalyn

Ten Ton Hammer Video of the Day

Breaking up works, too, but...

I thought I'd take a different tack today. Because I'm a girl, the comment I've heard a lot from male gamers is, "I wish my girlfriend/wife would play video games, or at least not get pissed off when I do." Getting your significant bother to play games with you is a topic for another article, but I may be able to help with the whole "not getting pissed off" thing.

Let's say you're up until 4 a.m., sitting at your PC in your boxers, munching some Doritos or Flamin' Hot Funyuns while playing your latest MMO obsession. Your partner-like-person, the one who spends a great deal of time with you and puts up with most of your annoying habits out of love, crawls out of bed, rubs her eyes sleepily, and says, "You're always playing that game. Do you have any idea how I feel when you don't come to bed until it's almost morning?"

You answer, "What difference does it make? You're sleeping! I don't underst- Oh, come ON! What the $#%^@ was that? You're supposed to tank that *&^@%#$ thing, not give it flowers!

She pouts and says, "See? This is what I mean. I feel like you don't even see me anymore."

This brewing argument can only end in tears (quite possibly yours, when you're alone with only your hand and a bottle of lotion to comfort you) if you don't take care of it quickly. The key? Empathy. See, it's not about the sleeping; your girls just wants to be heard. And the sooner she feels like you're hearing her, the faster you can go back to swearing at your monitor or bitching people out in voice chat.

The woman in today's video just wants to be heard, too. Check it out.

See? Sometimes what's obvious to you (like a nail in the forehead or the fact that while you're playing games your significant bother is just sleeping, anyhow) isn't always the point (Ha! See what I did there? The point!) to her. So take off that headset, go /afk for just a few minutes, and address her concerns.

"Lover," you say tenderly, "it must be awful to be alone while you're snoring. I realize it's difficult for you when you don't have anyone to kick all night. Stealing covers from no one can be such a lonely feeling."

"Thank you for understanding," she says with a sniffle.

"Any time, angel face," you say, without a trace of guile. "You know I'm here for you." Here's where you point at your desk chair. "Whenever you need me, I'll always be right here. Now, off to bed with you, sweetie. You need your rest."

She smiles, stumbles off to bed contentedly, and you go back to playing games. Now, that wasn't so hard, was it?


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